the "civil" in "civilization" derives from Latin civilis
Graeber and Wengrow say (432) that this "actually refers to [...] qualities of political wisdom and mutual aid that permit societies to organize themselves through voluntary coalition"
"If mutual aid, social co-operation, civic activism, hospitality or simply caring for others are the kinds of things that really go to make civilizations, then the true history of civilization is only just starting to be written"