Mags Colvett: "In Sexuality Beyond Consent, Avgi Saketopoulou describes a kind of exigent sadism—distinct from either basic cruelty or a clean, controlled performance of sadism that never exceeds pre-set boundaries, which might not even be possible, since none of us can actually predict our own reactions that well—that creates deep vulnerabilities for both the submissive and the dominant: whatever you’ve negotiated in advance, the dominant has to confront the unknown well of will-to-hurt this situation might open up inside them, the things they might not know are there, and take responsibility for whatever unforeseen actions and feelings could come of that. In courting that risk together, it’s possible to cause unanticipated hurt, but also to give kinds of needed care—pleasure, fulfillment, transformative states—that neither of you would know how to ask for without arriving there through something like shared emotional adventure."
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